Relationships are riddled with moments that can be terrifying. However there’s that awkward, sometimes nerve-wracking point even before you get to the relationship when you try to find out just how to get the guy you’ve already noticed to notice you.
There is a difference between recognizing you and “NOTICING” you, whether he is a perfect stranger, long-time friend or acquaintance. If you have an eye on a guy, but don’t know how to get his eyes on you, consider trying out these unique tips.
When you like a guy, it hurts to feel like he doesn’t notice you. Fortunately, you can get on his radar by catching his attention. Draw his eye with a great outfit, eye contact, and a smile.
Get a Guy to Notice You
If you want to get a guy’s attention, then confidence is key. Whether you are a social butterfly or a fly on the wall, you need to be able to feel comfortable in your own skin. Having confidence in yourself can help make a guy take notice in you.
Make a Good Impression
When it comes to meeting anyone, first impressions speak volumes. This especially applies to a guy that you might be interested in.
Nervousness can sometimes make you quiet and shy and that might make you seem indifferent to the guy that you like.
If you want to make a good impression on this guy, then do not shrink away or be afraid that you might make a fool out of yourself.
Be nice and polite and if you do embarrass yourself, then brush it off and don’t give up right away. When you are face to face with him, avoid being timid and meek.
And do not be overly assertive either. Be polite and cool and casual at the same time. Remember that you want to be approachable.
Keep Your Eyes off Your Phone
We are constantly on our phones. But, if you are hoping to get a certain someone to talk to you try putting down the phone.
While you are busy texting, playing games, or just surfing the web the signal you are putting out is that you are busy.
If you want to seem approachable be present, not busy on your phone. He isn’t going to want to interrupt you when you appear busy.
Dress to Be Noticed
It may seem superficial to tell you to dress up, or dress sexy. But, the first thing someone notices about you is your appearance.
While we all want a guy who thinks we look sexy in our sweats on Saturday morning, long before he has a chance to notice every fine detail about what makes you sexy, he is going to be taking in the whole picture from afar.
Paint the picture you want him to see, remember you noticed him too, and odds are at least a part of that was because you were attracted to him.
Do Not Act Desperate
While you might really want to get a guy to pay attention to you, do not show it too much. Desperation is not attractive and if you show way too much interest, then that can easily become a turn off for him.
Remember to give him space to breath. He should not be feeling suffocated and bombarded by your presence.
Close the Gap
It doesn’t matter if you noticed him from across a crowded room, or if you are in the same class, or if you take your breaks at the same time at work.
Once you have your on eye on him, close the distance gap. I am not implying you should hover over him.
But, if you want a better chance of being noticed try being closer. If he is across the room, consider moving halfway there, we tend to notice people around us. Get on his radar by flying just a little closer.
Be a Fan
Like sports? Exciting news, a lot of guys do too! Consider dawning some fan gear you have for your favorite sports team.
This can be a great ice breaker and an invitation for conversation. Now, when you have some intel on the guy you have your eye on you can take this one step further.
Does he like a team, band, movie, or really anything that you do? If you are a big fan of something he is show it off, fans love to talk to other fans.
The Tried And True
We all know the move, a little eye contact with a quick smile. Some girls toss in a wave, a nod, a tip of a glass in their hand.
There are hundreds of thousands of little variations, we all have our own. Just because it may be one of the oldest tricks in the book doesn’t make it invalid, in fact, the reason every girl knows it is because it works.
Don’t stare him down though, and don’t keep looking back over, toss him one, maybe two looks, and then it is up to him.
You Cannot Hold It in Anymore
A great sign you are ready to say I love you, is that you can barely stop yourself from saying it. If those three words are ready to leap from your mouth every time you talk to your partner, maybe it is time to go ahead and let them slip out.
If you’re mouth is so certain you are fighting to not say it, it’s time to say it.
Be the Nice Girl
When his eyes might be on make sure you are acting like his eyes might be on you. When you first start dating you put your best foot forward.
Once you notice a guy and start trying to get him to notice you, start putting your best foot forward. He is less likely to come talk to you if you are being mean to the bartender, or mocking a coworker or fellow student. Be yourself, but, be the best you.
The happy, active, laughing, pleasant, kind, funny, sweet you. He might notice you long before he comes to talk to you, and if he is watching you don’t want to show him something ugly.
Ask Him a Question
Ask him the time, for a pen, a lighter, how to get to somewhere. This is a great way to open up the chance for conversation.
Even if you two don’t end up going out for coffee or sitting down and having a long conversation, he noticed you.
Some guys are shyer than others, and it may take a while to work up the nerve to ask you out, so building up slowly with small talk might be the best route.
It is up to you how much time you want to invest into getting him to notice you and make a move.
Flirting can be tough because you might be afraid of looking like a fool and being rejected by the guy you like.
But if you want a guy to notice you at all and if you want him to know that you are interested in him, then flirting is key to getting his attention.
If you want a guy to notice you, then by all means do not be afraid to be a little flirty when you are interacting with him.
When you are around this guy, go ahead and try to strike a balance between subtlety and boldness at the same time.
Little things like making eye contact and smiling at him are very subtle ways to show your interest in him.
Have a Positive Attitude
If you have a positive outlook on life, then good things will come to you because you are open to them. This also applies to catching a guy’s eye. If he sees you with bright eyes and a smile on your face, then he will be intrigued and energized by your positive energy.
Remember that optimism and positive energy can be contagious in the best way. And if the guy you like notices that you have that type of attitude, then he might want to get to know you a little bit more.
Negativity, on the other hand, can be a bad thing not only for you but the people around you as well. Look out for negative behaviors including gossiping too much and making mean remarks to people.
If you have a short temper, then the guy you like might see that as a negative as well.
Connect With Him on Social Media
These days, social media can play a very important role when you want to get to know someone. And it is also effective if you want someone to get to know you.
From blog posts to pictures, this guy will know more about your life and what your interests are. Get his attention with your social media accounts.
There are too things online that can repeal a guy instead of attracting him. If you are too vain and are full of drama, then you might not get the positive attention from him you are looking for.
Constantly putting up selfies and being overly obsessed with your looks might indicate that you are vain and self-centered.
And constantly going into rants online and publicly arguing with others will tell him that drama follows you wherever you go. So if you want his attention, avoid drama as well.
Find Common Interests
One great way to get a guy’s attention is by finding out what common interests you have. Unless he wears band shirts and always has his nose buried in a book, you will not know what his interests are unless you ask him.
Try to make an effort to get to know this guy. Go ahead and ask him about what he likes to do, what music he likes, what he likes to watch on the television, and so on.
These are all relatively easy topics to discuss. Harder ones might include divisive topic like politics or religion.
In summary, In order to get any guy’s attention, the most important thing you have to do is make an effort. It will not always happen overnight and most times, you cannot just sit there and hope that he will notice you one day.